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The Mystery Of The Unification Of The Masculine And Feminine, Part 11

599.02Is it Possible to Create Harmony Between a Man and a Woman?

Question: Is it possible to create some kind of harmony between a man and a woman if he is engaged in Kabbalah and she is not, and they seem to have different interests and goals?

Answer: On a purely everyday level, if they value their family and children, then of course they can. But at the same time, everyone will have to sacrifice something.

The problem is that it is much more difficult for a man who studies Kabbalah to give up and pay attention to his wife and children. After all, Kabbalah takes a lot of time and most importantly thoughts, feelings, and heart.

But this all applies to the transition period. I think that this will very quickly turn into a normal situation in all of humanity and people will begin to understand their nature.

All the same, now the family has such a vague image that there is nothing wrong if the husband is engaged in Kabbalah, attends some circles, watches lessons at night. Is there anything different in other families? Today, every family is disfigured in its own way.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 3/3/19

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608.01Ascending Above Bodies

Question: Today the masculine part in a woman is salient and the feminine part in men is more prominent. Is there a reason for that?

Answer: We are in a process, in a period of transition, but we will eventually begin to understand how we should get closer to each other in order to reveal the Creator.

By the revelation of the Creator we mean to our next level of existence in which we ascend above our bodies and begin to exist in a volume our corporeal life and death have nothing to do with. We begin to exist in a soul.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 3/3/19

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631.2Connecting in Order to Attain the Creator

Question: If a family is the beastly level, what relations can we build between a man and a woman on the spiritual level?

Answer: This will already be a different family. People will begin to live not just in order to have children, to supply their basic needs, and to plant a tree. In fact, they will unite between them according to the spiritual principle.

This is the meaning of the unity between a man and a woman. It is as is said in the Torah, “A man and a woman, Shechina between them.”

Question: What should they do so that the Creator will be revealed?

Answer: They should connect on all levels, on the corporeal level, internally, mentally, and psychologically so that it will be for the sake of attaining the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 3/3/19

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546.02Between Plus and Minus

Question: To what extent can we measure the male and the female elements according to our advancement in the spiritual world? Can the differences be eliminated a little?

Answer: No. None of the differences between us can be eliminated. They will be increasingly more prominent and become increasingly more polarized. But to the extent that they draw further away from each other, we will be able to analyze them correctly, to compare and to examine them correctly, and to integrate a greater load between them.

Imagine there is a plus and a minus and there is an engine between them. If there are 5 volts between them, it is a small engine. But if there are 500 volts between them it is already a powerful engine. So we need to understand that the voltage between the male part and the female part in humanity will continue to grow.

Women will demand what they deserve more and more, and they will be just, whereas men will try to escape responsibility like kids, and will thus be wrong. But nature will eventually obligate us to use each other correctly so that we will activate an optimal load between us, and the engine of the creation will begin to operate on us and on all of humanity correctly.

So don’t think that we will get closer to each other. We will actually move toward even greater stratification and divisiveness.

Today we no longer see that women rebel and demand equal rights at work, although this has not been achieved yet, and at the moment there are only a few representatives of women at meetings, in the government, etc., soon we will not only give in to them, but we will allow them equal opportunities.

Because we will begin to understand nature, we will recognize that there cannot be plus without minus or minus without plus. So we must constantly aspire for balance between the male part and the female part, not only physically, at work places, but in every sense in general.

Soon you will see women in professions where there have never been any female representatives. Women will begin to adapt to these professions and will manage just as well as men do. We must not look back.

We simply need to understand that this is the direction of our motion. So let’s prepare for it. We simply need to offer equal opportunities. The main thing is to find the right mutual cooperation from the perspective of nature: which load and which engine can we activate between us so that it will operate correctly, so that I can be in contact with a woman without causing a short circuit, so that there will not be an explosion between the plus and the minus.

The right mutual cooperation should be under the beneficial load. We still have to learn that. How? Which beneficial load can there be here? It may be too much, but the only load there can be is the revelation of the Creator, His attainment. When a man and woman work together correctly, they begin to attain the Creator between them. This is what the principle of our development, our source, and its cause come down to.

People who understand where all this is headed should be happy about the big steps that we are making and about the fact that we are beginning to reveal the need for the participation of women in every aspect of life. This is actually necessary only in order to begin to adapt to the spiritual space.

Just as the Creator has created us by the descent from the top down, in the connection between us, in the ascent, we build Him, we define Him between us. We will not feel Him any other way.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 3/3/19

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565.02The Role of the Man and the Role of the Woman

Question: How important is a woman’s work according to the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: On the whole, a man is a more mobile creature than a woman. He is active, he runs about, jumps, and crosses seas and oceans. But he does all that for a woman in order to have everything that both she and he need. A woman, on the other hand, helps him, because without her help a man will not succeed.

So the advancement in groups is based on the clear mutual cooperation between the male part and the female part. If we say that we are in a process of fulfilling the idea of accepting the leadership of the Creator and His work now, we need two reins for that, both the male and the female reins. The female rein is the left one, and the male rein is the right one. Through these two representatives of the human race we can resemble the Creator.

It is important to emphasize that the wisdom of Kabbalah designates an even greater role for a woman than for a man. We don’t see it at the moment because men are more prominent as usual, but in fact, subconsciously there is actually the female desire in everything, the female force and the female participation.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 3/3/19

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232.06Learning to Control the Ego

Question: How does Kabbalah recommend resolving the contradictions between us?

Answer: Nature does not want to solve the contradictions, but actually quite the opposite, it wants to put us in such conflicts and contradictions that we will not be able to resolve and then we will either destroy each other or ascend to the next level above our nature.

Nature pressures us in a very clear, systematic, serious manner, and shows us that we will not be able to continue to exist egoistically. Our ego manages us and it is not to our benefit. We must learn how to manage it.

The Creator, who has created us as egoists and manages our fate, seemingly says: “It is time to leave the nest. I want you to manage yourselves, to be in charge of your own life, of your own fate. You must begin to control your ego, and I am giving you this opportunity. But in order to do so, you need to perfectly restore the connection with Me because I am the positive connection, and you must control the ego with the help of this connection.”

What does it mean to control the ego? To restrict it, to work with it not so that it awakens desires in us, but actually purposefully. This means that from this moment onward, I want to move forward so that I can manage myself. Not that the Creator should manage me, but that I should manage myself.

Each of us can picture what it means to leave the parents’ home. A time comes when we leave our parents and start gradually building our life. It takes time. On one hand we want to be free, but on the other hand, it is good when our parents take care of us.

Thus, leaving the parents is unpleasant: we either leave to another town, go to university, join the army, or something else happens in our lives. But generally speaking, it is a breakaway.

This is the reason why the Creator seemingly says, “You have grown, you have become detached, and now you need to start working on yourselves independently.” This work is called the work of the Creator when we can take both controlling forces from the Creator, the egoistic force and the altruistic force, and start managing ourselves like with two reins.

But what does it mean to manage ourselves? Suppose I sit in a carriage holding the reins and there is a horse in front of me (my ego) and I control it. The human being in me controls the beast in me. Unfortunately, I am not very successful in it. I forget, and I don’t really want it.

In principle, the Creator leads us to that. You see, a man is this concept when I want to ascend above the beast in me and resemble the Creator.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 3/3/19

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766.1A Quiet Revolution In The Family

In the past, we could establish some contact between one another with the help of simple psychology, and thus balance our lives. There was the female part, the male part, and the common part. We had to do this in order to generate the third part.

On the whole, every family replicated this ancient model and everything was clear. Today, however, the ties have been broken and this model no longer exists. The ego has grown so much that a man does not want to work for his family and a woman does not want kids or a family, although these are basically the most natural things for her. The motherly instinct is no longer active.

For a man, the questions “Why should I work for others?” and “Why shouldn’t she go out to work?” come up. This is exactly the point at which professions and opportunities for women to work outside the home and demand equal rights like men gradually develop. There is usually a demand for women in places where men cannot work like in secretarial jobs and there are also opportunities for jobs like managing countries that open up for women.

Generally speaking, the world has changed a lot during the last century and something has happened: an unnoticed revolution has taken place quietly. Now, the question of “How should we continue from here and what should we do with ourselves and the world?” should arise in us.

We already find it hard to establish contact between one another these days and our egos control us.

We don’t want families and children anymore. We want to create a world in which each one feels comfortable. This means that I won’t need anything and that modernization will serve me. Drones will fly through my window, provide me with pizza and cola, and everything will be just fine.

Soon we will develop such technology that everyone will have an “oven” in his room, pizza will be sent directly by special pipelines, it will materialize there, and we will be able to consume it.

In short, we will do anything in order to somehow tear a person from his ordinary natural world and we cannot do anything about it since this plan is embedded in nature. But, thanks to the wisdom of Kabbalah, we can picture what will happen in the future.

Very interesting things will happen in the future. We will suddenly discover that we have attained a level of development that depresses us terribly. Everything will be seemingly fine, but we actually won’t feel any pleasure at all and will not find any satisfaction in anything.

In the past, a person was satisfied just knowing that he would come home from work, sit with his family around the dinner table, and dine together. There were kids and there was the warmth of the family and peace. This was ordinary family life for a person, but when the ego grew, a person understood that this is no longer for him.

Interestingly, family life among animals lasts a very short time. After all, animals could also be subjected to a lifelong plan, but they are not! They meet, copulate, the female is generally left on her own to raise her offspring while the male abandons them, and there is actually no family. They do not live as couples after that and do not take care of their offspring together, except for a few species.

There are very few examples in nature where the male and the female stay together for many years, whereas people live in a family for a reason.

Psychologists explain that this is necessary in order to create an increasingly greater society in the form of a state. A person is drawn to that in order to develop from a small community into a big state. In a community, everything was done together and so there were no families there. Then, the need to have his own home and his own family emerged in man, differently from animals that live in caves or in the bush and don’t need anything more than that.

Today, it is not clear which phase we are developing into by rejecting everything that used to be typical for man including a home, a family, and children. We are confused and the family institution is falling apart. Grown children live with their parents since why should they leave home if it is so good with mom and dad? Or, they may leave their homes and not have any contact with their parents. This is the state we are in today.
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From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah” 3/3/19

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511.01Why Has the Balance in Family Life Been Disrupted?

Question: What prevents a married couple from managing their egoistic nature? After all, they both want to be happy with what they create between them.

Answer: A couple doesn’t fully understand where they are, which forces influence them, and why everything in the corporeal world is divided into male and female.

In our world the relations between the created being and the Creator are somehow imprinted in the relations between the sexes, although there are masculine and feminine attributes in both males and females.

However, we cannot come to any connection with each other. Still, when we establish any connection with each other we see that to the extent that we develop egoistically from one generation to the next, we actually draw further away from each other. It seems that we can get closer to each other in the sense of gender these days and to understand each other better, but it isn’t really so.

The ego that develops awakens even greater resistance and rejection in us. Throughout human history men and women always knew what fate designated for them. A man had to provide bread for the family and a woman had to manage the home.

A home is the woman, and she is responsible for managing the household and for raising the children, and the man has to provide all their needs. A couple understood that this is how they shared their responsibilities and so they carried the burden of life. It stemmed from the nature of family life as their grandfathers and grandmothers and fathers and mothers set such an example for them.

Suddenly, about 100 years ago all this began to fall apart all over the world. It did not matter whether a country was developed or not, the breakdown was the same. It took place in all the conservative and orthodox communities, and even in fanatic Islamic communities.

The plan of creation brings us to the point that we cannot do anything. Our egoism has grown so much that we can no longer leave the woman at home so that she can bring up the children and cook while the man goes out to work. This is impossible today, and so we ask ourselves, “How do we continue to live?”

This is where the revelation of the wisdom of Kabbalah comes in, in order to explain to us what the right relationship between a man and woman is because today it is impossible to achieve it in the same way as in the past.
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The Law Of The Boomerang

963.6Question: Do we currently treat each other egoistically without even realizing it?

Answer: We do not understand that we are beating ourselves with this, and terribly so, and getting many times more damage than the momentary pleasure we are giving ourselves.

Question: Why? What is the reason for this?

Answer: Egoism closes our eyes. Therefore, we think that by humiliating and suppressing others, we rise and are better off. But, this is not so.

Suddenly, a general system is revealed to us, a common dependence on each other. If I suppress, humiliate, or deceive others, I do damage to myself many times more. This comes back to me at a much greater loss than what I supposedly earned and enjoyed when I did something bad to someone else.

The system of connection between us is arranged so that this comes back to me. Not immediately, not explicitly to me. Yet, if I see the whole system, I will behave correctly. Then I will not have any questions about how to make a prenuptial agreement. I will do nothing wrong even to someone who is far away, much less to someone I am going to live with.

I will clearly see the reason we met, and it is not by chance, how we need to communicate with each other, and what level of agreement we need to reach.

Question: Will there be no thoughts about using each other, not trusting each other?

Answer: How can I do this if I feel that it will immediately come back to me, affect me? Where can I hide? I will begin to see the other as a part of me even more important than myself. After all, passing through him, this signal will return to me amplified.

Therefore, the very security system that exists in me all the time will not allow me to think or do something bad.

Question: Today, this security system works in one direction. How I can isolate myself from the other. When it begins to work toward the outside will the vector change and the attitude change?

Answer: Yes. But only if we will see that we are interconnected.
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294.3Attaining the Goal of Creation Together

Question: According to what you say, the created being in relation to the Creator is like a woman in relation to a man. Is that true?

Answer: Yes but it is totally conditional since we don’t attribute a man or a woman to the Creator’s different attributes. Both men and women are egoists. In a woman the ego is expressed a bit differently than in a man, but generally speaking, there is no difference between them.

We are all created beings of one Creator, and none of us has any priority, but quite the opposite, the motion toward the goal of creation and its correct implementation eventually come down to the fact that we have to cooperate in order to attain the goal.
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